Three Different Interactions

There are three different interactions between people. They are passive, aggressive, and assertive. Passive interaction is when they are easy going towards a situation. Aggressive is when they are confrontational towards a situation. Assertive interaction is when they politely confront.

A situation where I had a passive interaction is when I had a short conflict with my mother. I was passive with our misunderstanding because well...she is my mother. And I do respect her. So by being passive, our conflict didn't last long.

A time where I had aggressive interaction was about a week ago when Ray Benson lost my indicators for math. I was aggressive in this situation because she misplaced about eight of my indicators. I worked hard on them and I need to finish math with a time limit of three weeks to graduate. So yes, I had to be aggressive and it helped. She found the missing worksheets and I phased up that day.

A situation where I had assertive interaction was when I had to ask my dad if I could do something. He's my dad and he's strict so , you know, I had to be polite.

Active Listening

There are two types of listening. One of these two is "active listening". Active listening is when you are paying attention, focused, and learning from whoever is speaking.

A time where I was actively listening was during the Juneau trip (Close-Up). A couple of students and I went on this trip to learn and experience the branches of law and sit in meetings with the state's senators, legislators, committee, and governor. Active listening was crucial during this trip. I didn't know a thing about government before going on this trip. I learned how a bill is formed and passed. I learned what positions there are in the judical branch. We also did activities. We contra danced, which was a first. We had to listen to directions from the Contra Instructor to form the dance. So there was active listening involved in that. We even went snowboarding, which was another first, so we were instructed by an experienced snowboarder. I ALMOST learned how, but I couldn't turn left or right.

3 Values

There are three values that are relationships, personal, and work.

Ranking them from 1-3, 1 being the most important, I would place Relationships as third.
I would mark the value relationship as least important because it could slow you down with school work. One example would be "distraction". While you are trying to get work done, a friend or significant other could be trying to have a conversation with you that would slow down your progress.

Number two would be the personal value. I think that it would rank second because without certain personal skills or abilities you wouldn't be able to form relationships. Relationships could be useful for some situations.

The most crucial value would have to be work. Without work, we wouldn't be able to pay for things such as bills, food, heating oil, gas, or transportation. Without these things we would be living in extreme poverty. Also, to have work we need excellent skills in relationship and personal values. That way, we could maintain a successful reputation at work and keep the job.

What I Expect To Learn In This Chapter

In this chapter, Decision Making Skills, I expect to learn about making decisions. I think this chapter is going to focus on teaching how to make good decisions. I also think it's going to help us weigh the good decisions over the bad. The chapter will probably have information on how to tell the difference from good choices and bad choices. I think this is going to be a helpful chapter for our future decisions.

DON'T DO IT!!!!(Advice for a friend that's suicidal)

What are you doing?! Step away from the edge of the cliff!!
There are many people that care about you. It is not worth taking your own life. Think about how your mother will think of you.
You don't want her to live the rest of her life thinking that she was a failure to her own child, don't you? She is going to think that way if you do go through with this crazy idea.
I know you are under a lot of stress and extremely depressed, but there are ways that that could be solved. If you do kill yourself you're going to put many of your loved ones under the same sadness.
I know that you think people don't care about you, but that is just you THINKING that they don't. They might not show any emotions towards you, but that doesn't automatically mean that it is true. You have a whole life ahead of you and you could do anything you desire if you just put some effort into it.
There is always a way to solve any problems that you have; just open your eyes. Don't do it.

2 and 5 ways.

I think that one good way to handle stress is to change your response to the stress. By improving your response, you could easily handle stress without overworking your body. One way to a better response would have to be relaxation. Or you could exercise to lower your stress level.
Another way that I think is a good way to handle stress is removing yourself from the stressful situation. Try not to hang out with bad influences or make bad decisions because it could lead you to stressful situations.

There are five ways you could reduce the negative effects of stress.
-RELAXATION, is a good way to reduce that negative effect you have from stress. Take a deeeeep breath. Slowly let it out. Now do you feel relaxed? Breathing exercises and muscle relaxation can reduce the tension in your body. You could tighten and then relax various muscles in your body whenever you feel tense.

-A HOBBY, is something you could use to help you relax. A hobby could be something that you love to do. Some examples are sewing, painting, sports, reading, or taking a walk. Finding a hobby could keep you from that tension.

-PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES, is something that the body needs for various reasons. One of those reasons is for lowering the tension from stress. Make a schedule for physical exercises if it helps.

-EATING HEALTHY, is also important for the body for many reasons. Stressful situations sometimes effects the way you eat. A well-balanced diet can improve your ability to cope with stress.

-SLEEP, is what everyone needs. Like exercise and diet, sleep helps you feel your best during stress. Most people are grouchy when they are tired and might have negative feelings than a person who is rested.

Advice for Defense Mechanisms

PROJECTION-One advice I would give to someone who is using projection would be "stop blaming, your only hurting yourself." I would tell them that whoever they blamed it on would not want to be around them anymore. They wouldn't trust them with anything.

RATIONALIZATION-Stop making excuses. Grow up and be mature for once. It's all you.

DISPLACEMENT- By taking out your feelings on someone else, it'll only make that feeling worse. Like if you are angry and take it out on someone innocent, they'll probably get angry with you. Your just going to add more people onto your "I'm mad at you" list.
Don't want that now, do you?

CONVERSION- Take out your emotions instead of keeping it inside. It's very unhealthy to store all those feelings.

REGRESSION- How old are you? You're only going to make yourself look like a fool. Nobody wants to be around someone that age that acts like a child.

IDEALIZATION-No ones going to listen to you or care if you think that It's the best item ever.

FANTASY- Your going to have to do the work or go through the stress if you come back to reality anyway so get it over with now.